Hello friends, I am writing this blog post today on this cold, snowy November morning with the thought that I want to make this a regular post on Sunday mornings. Hope anyway. It may or may not relate to my craft experience but as a multi crafter, every experience in my life affects my craft. Today though, this is more about my own mental frustrations we will call it that have been brewing for the last three plus years since my husband and I took in a family member of his into our home. At the time when my husband asked me if I was ok having this person be in our home I really didn’t think it was going to be a problem. I had what I thought was a good relationship with them and didn’t think that would be different or change. I have since been proven wrong.
Let me start this conversation by asking anyone who may read this have you ever thought about people’s personality traits? There are different types for sure. I have a degree in health and human development with a focus on early childhood so I have seen this develop in young children. This person is a senior in early 80s. Do you know someone or maybe yourself who is shall we say a dominant, likes to be in charge, in control of a situation or family? Well, this person is that kind of person. She never wants to be told what to do, was in control of the finances for their family, and was/ is the matriarch for their family. I am I would say the complete opposite yet I am also the matriarch of my family that I have with my husband. We have two children. The oldest has been out of the house for a number of years now and my youngest due to circumstances for cost of living in our area being what it is is still living at home with us.
Long story short, let’s just say that my husband and I were brought up in two very different home upbringings. My husband asked me last night why I have been so tense and seem to have a hard time being around this person. In the early hours of the morning I think I finally figured out what it comes down to. Deep down it’s a lack of respect. How do you find a way to get where two people of opposite personalities yet are in the same position to stop butting heads so to speak and live in peace and respect in the same house. Without giving a lot of details let’s just say, the struggle of taking care of a senior member of a family who is a total opposite personality and does not respect you yet wants respect herself, is nothing but difficult and hard. It has made it hard at times for me to find joy in my craft and yet at times that is the only solace I have in my life at times too. If you are in this kind of position or have been and have some insight I would love it if you would comment or give some suggestion. My husbands thought is to have us talk it out and come to agreement to start over. I’m not sure she is able to do that as I have had conversations before and tried to do that very thing and nothing changes. Stay tuned to see.
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